Whilst Dunoon ferries have been in the news a lot recently, its not the recent decision about passenger-only services that got me thinking this week. If you want to know more about that, go to the Dunoon Observer page
Instead it was a trip on a Western Ferry yesterday that had me pondering change and how we respond to things around us.
With the strong winds this week, there was a bit of a swell running across our track and so the ferry was rolling a bit. Stood inside, I was watching the waves break away from us, heading towards the fog-shrouded shore at Cove. After a few moments I became aware that the glass was almost against my face! Had I been overbalancing, swaying with the rhythm, entering a wave-induced trance? No, I was still standing upright in relation to the waves and the horizon. Instead, it was the boat moving under me causing the glass to move back and forth.
This then brought me back to thinking about the phrase in the title which has been quoted frequently during my NLP training course (for information on what NLP is, checkout Sugar NLP's definition here), "You can't not change". Even though I was standing still, because the environment was changing around me I was having to adapt to my immediate surroundings. I was doing it almost subconsciously as I looked at the horizon.
How often is that true of us in other places? Things change around us but we don't want to be different so we try to remain the same as we were last week or last year. The very act of sticking to the model though will require change! I was working with young people earlier in the week who experienced some challenging activities and consequently changed their view of what they were capable of. They could however have chosen to ignore the facts in front of them and held to their previous views that they couldn't do it. That would also have been a change though; deliberately reinforcing a negative view of themselves by ignoring evidence to the contrary. It sounds daft but yet many people still do it regularly.
So as you look at things altering around you, and feel some of that change inside, what do you do about it? Are you reacting really well to differences or is your subconscious doing what it thinks you need without asking you if that's what you want? What thoughts are going through your head even as you are reading these words?
Even if you don't feel the need to make big changes, people say that talking to a coach is a good way of coming to terms with the status quo. You could get in touch for an exploratory chat to see how much of a difference it will make for you.
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Nick has been writing for mass consumption ever since he was sending newsletters home from the Philippines 20+ years ago. He has carried on putting finger to keyboard, branching out into magazines, manuals and recently submitting lots of words for books. He has always aimed to be entertaining but at the same time challenging. If you like something, feel free to pass it on to someone else, but if you are challenged by it then even better - write a comment, start a debate, add to the fun.