So the game is finally over for England and we can all go back to being more neutral watchers of the tournament (unless you now plan to switch your supportive allegiances to the Scottish boy on the smaller grass of SW19).
I must confess to not being that interested as a neutral in the early rounds of the tournament when it is group stages. People like to win but there is little emotion involved. Contrast that on the other hand to Ronaldo's outpouring when he scored the winner or the Italians when they scored the final penalty. In the knockout phase, a win is met with greater delight which is evident to all and there is something infectious about this kind of happiness. Sometimes in the storms of life or weather, we need to surround ourselves with things that make us smile, even if it is just inwardly: the surprised shriek of shoppers on Buchanan Street as the thunder cracked above them, waking up to a sunny day, a small child laughing with their friends, an ex-Liverpool player scoring (Xabi Alonso). What works for you?
Of course the disadvantage of watching the football is the losers being interviewed. Stevie G was absolutely gutted at the end of the game. Having played really well and been captain during the tournament will mean nothing to him compared to his team going out on penalties. However these memories are short-lived if we choose them to be so and remember the positives instead. If you google pictures of Gerrard, the majority of him in an England shirt show him smiling and happy - we can replace one image with another. If you are struggling with this then a good coach can help you overlay the negative with the positive image using straightforward NLP techniques.
This is not to say though that we should ignore the storms - in fact they often have something to teach us and the experiences improve who we are. As the quote in the newsletter suggested, we should make the most of where we are and learn to dance in the rain.
So what have you seen around you today that makes you smile? What will you hold on to to help you dance in the rain?
Steven Gerrard, football hero to me and thousands others, misses his mum. Having just read his autobiography, one of the things that comes out clearly is what a family boy and man he has been all his life. From his early years growing up in Liverpool, you could hear in every word how much community, friends and especially relatives were important in his development.
Belonging was and is key to him, whether it is in the home or at Liverpool FC where it has been a feature in his success.
The story that really brings it home is his description of his first tournament trip away with England. "Homesickness ruined Euro 2000 for me". He could handle 7 days away but before they even got to Belgium for the tournament proper he had been away 10 and was looking at potentially another 5 weeks. He talks very candidly about weighing up the huge excitement of being picked for his first big tournament to play alongside his idols like Alan Shearer and Robbie Fowler versus the unhappiness of not being at home with his folks.
Rarely do we see someone's values so exposed like this but it certainly helps us to understand the man better and respect him for being so human as well as such a big star.
Will this be the case for everyone? Not necessarily - relationships with family are very individual and in some cases like Gerrard, at one end of a particularly polarised spectrum. However, we all have values that are our internal drivers, moving us to do things, a bit like the paddles for a remote-controlled car but better hidden. What gets you up in the morning, that motivates you to do things, controls how and why you act? Knowing what these drivers are that, consciously or otherwise, affect us, we can use them to best advantage.
Just like Gerrard, who recognised his strong family values and can now make allowance for them, so too we can use them to our advantage, once we recognise them.
Go to my article for more discussion of values or download the values pack to help you investigate your own a bit further.
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Nick has been writing for mass consumption ever since he was sending newsletters home from the Philippines 20+ years ago. He has carried on putting finger to keyboard, branching out into magazines, manuals and recently submitting lots of words for books. He has always aimed to be entertaining but at the same time challenging. If you like something, feel free to pass it on to someone else, but if you are challenged by it then even better - write a comment, start a debate, add to the fun.