How often do you encounter people you've not met for a long time, possibly for many years, and they tell you how you have changed, as if it happened overnight. It used to be the classic aged-relative greeting to (grand) children, although Skype and cheap flights may have increased the frequency of seeing each other. When you live with the change happening you can see that it has been quite gradual.
Why is it then that we still want changes to take place today, in an instant, right now? I am currently at a conference with other xpand trainers, where the sessions are prefaced by a time of worshipping God, since we are all Christians. I had been roped into playing percussion and brought small things in my hand luggage. When I arrived in Budapest though, I was introduced to a drum kit that had been acquired for me. Lucky you, I hear some of you saying. Except that I've never played with sticks before - a drum kit is something I have aspired to play and want to be good at playing. Now. I don't want to go through the process of lessons and learning; change should happen overnight so that I am a competent drummer. Instead, I am playing with a band trying to incorporate aspects of stick playing along with hand drums. It's a steep learning curve, very much in the public ear, that I wouldn't have chosen. However as a starting event it is definitely good for me.
And that is where I disagree slightly with the statement that change is a process not an event. I would amend it to say that change can be initiated by an event and the process may include a sequence of other discrete points that flow together. When I was learning to play the piano, the process involved weekly torture in the form of lessons that I had generally not practiced for, with very occasional bouts of playing in between. The process started with a decision, by my mother, that this would be a good thing (probably with my tacit agreement at the time) and continued through regular events with Miss Glover and subsequently Miss Kenneth.
Slowly I am becoming more accepting that the desire to be good at something, to be different, to have changed, must also be accompanied by the acceptance of discipline and patience for process to take place. The flip side of this though is that the acceptance generally only comes from my genuine desire to change, which will be the very substance of the tenacity that sees the vision of change brought to completion.
What do you still need, in order to make the changes you want to happen; desire, patience, tenacity, discipline, time? Whatever it is, find it and keep changing, becoming better, more who you want to be. Everyone knows that the process is worth it in the long run.